We Can’t Be Nice About Any Of This Anymore

Green-shaded map with scaled solors to show which states have more or less difference in gap between average wages for women and men. pay rate.
The darker colors have smaller gaps; the darkest, the *smallest* gap is about 10% (women make a little over 90% what men do), and the lightest – in Utah, women make less than 70% of men on average.

Meanwhile women are still making 70 or 80 cents on the dollar, black people are still getting shot by cops on an almost daily basis if not more than daily, there are still thousands of kids in cages in the middle of a global pandemic and we’re doing worse than nothing to help them including losing them entirely.

I’m really not trying to be rude about it, but at this point who’s more rude here? The person who is continuing to act as though they don’t understand the arguments why human beings should be human beings and we shouldn’t put up statues to people who bought and sold human beings and fought against the interests of human freedom because that is neither honorable nor laudable?  Or the person who says “enough, we’re moving on now?”

Who’s being more disrespectful, the person who refuses to wear a simple facemask, repeatedly demonstrated to have zero to negligible ill effects, in the middle of a deadly global pandemic that’s already killed at least – depending on your source – 125-130-ish thousand people just in the United States at the time I’m writing this, and probably many more? Or is the person who firmly insists we’re done arguing about it now and have the best guidance possible, and that’s WEAR A MASK WHEN YOU GO OUT, being rude by their firm insistence?   Who dies in which direction?  How many cases are there, EVER, of people dying because they were wearing a mask?  Right.  Wear the damn thing. If you’ve got reason beyond selfish and spurious hypochondria not to, you really WILL have the advice of a doctor because you’ve already got other serious problems.

In the vast majority of cases that first person is simply not being honest. It’s silly that we keep having to say the same things over and over as if each individual person is always hearing it for the first time. For instance I’m quite sure that my friend’s friend, whose remark started the comment that became this article, has heard all of these arguments before. He just doesn’t want to accept them. He can’t find a reasoned basis in objective fact and ethical behavior to support his position so he just pretends not to understand the arguments against it.  Maybe that’s a conscious decision, maybe it’s not, I don’t know the man well enough to say.  But that’s what’s happening.

At some level that stops even being about questions of racism or sexism or xenophobia or bigotry, and just starts being about personal character and integrity.  I know people are going to find that offensive and outrageous and insulting, but it’s more offensive and outrageous and insulting to continue to insist that we don’t understand the basic realities of life whenever they’re inconvenient for us.

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Sarah Warner
Sarah Warner
9 months ago

If your well written piece is from 3 years ago, I am consumed by the slow arc of justice & frightened to my bones of what the next year will bring as we inch towards the election…

Howard Du Bose
3 years ago

They are just trying to be obtuse…

Chris Conforti
3 years ago

Agreed. If they haven’t learned compassion by this time, it’s too late for them.

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